Have you ever noticed yourself engaging in self-sabotage?
You know, things are going well. Maybe even better than usual. And then it all goes south. And on reflection, you realize that you did something – probably unintentionally – that threw that monkey wrench into the works.
We’ve All Had Times of Self-Sabotage
The trick is to learn to catch yourself in the act, and hopefully turn yourself in the right direction.
As an example, I’d like to share a story from page 46 of my book, Beyond the Box; Creative Thinking Expanded.
The sister of a friend of mine came into town to visit her, and after the first day that she spent with her sister, my friend came back to me and said, “Oh my gosh, I just got right in there and I started curmudgeoning with her and kvetching.”
This was their historic way of being together. But my friend came away feeling unhappy with herself, because she had changed and grown, but hd fallen back into an old habit.
After relating the story to me, she took a deep breath she said, “I’m going to really work on that when I see her tomorrow.”
The next day with her sister, she really made a conscious effort. She didn’t make her sister wrong or turn her sister’s words around. She just stopped engaging in that type of conversation. Then, she looked for ways to change the subject on the spot to a different direction.
That’s one way to Color Your World.